“Why do young men, when they first begin to have sexual intercourse, hate those with whom they have associated after the act is over?” — Aristotelian treatise Problems (335 BC)
“Every animal is sad after sex, except the human female and the rooster” — allegedly Greek medical writer Galen (150 AD)
“Directly after copulation the devil’s laughter is heard.” — philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer (1818)
Post nut clarity definition:
sudden moment of clear-headedness or rationality that can occur immediately after a person has an orgasm or sexual release.
the usual explanation for why it occurs:
“release of hormones and neurotransmitters such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, etc. during sex, which make you high, and after you achieve orgasm, the hormones drop sharply, and you feel the opposite.”
Is that all to it? Highly Unlikely.
To examine what it is, we have to list some scenarios and see when it hit the hardest.
- Watch porn and fap
- Watch porn and fap to cursed stuff
- Watch porn and fap and you have delay and unfinished works
- Long session of porn and masturbation to sick and extremely cursed stuff
- Spend money to have sex with a hooker or escort
- Sex with sex friend
- Sex with girlfriend, she is just ok to you
- Sex with toxic ex
If you masturbate or fuck with lust, it is almost 100% that you will get post-nut clarity (degree depends), unless that you are absolutely not seeking anything else other than pure lust.
Why? Because these are not fruitful outcomes.
Your brain is telling you to stop and not to do it again.
The brain processes much more than it seems.
- Sexual arousal and hormones cloud the brain, amplify sex urges and sexual desires and inhibits fear and disgust
- Sex acts and when the moment orgasm and sexual release is achieved
- The brain instantly registers all the surrounding sensory information (vision, skin contact, smell, environment) and psychological state (before, during, after of both you and the mate) and uses them to evaluate the sex act that you have done just now, and process whether that is a fruitful or non-fruitful sex act. When it is not, you almost instantly get hit with post-nut clarity. The more futile and sick it is, the harder it hits.
Your now clear mind and shitty feeling is supposed to get you to work up to goals and efforts that help you to find a mate in the long run (not just sex mate, but soulmate that you can literally hand your life over).
The brain associates sex not only with the pleasure of sexual stimulation and release, sex is associated with interrelated aspects of emotions, connection, safety, realization of self-worth, and fertilization (the extension of self). We are a biological, social mammal after all.
Post-nut clarity is an adaptation to drive us towards the more fruitful outcomes of self-fulfillment, not only of sexual pleasure.
That’s why you don’t get post-nut clarity when you do it with your beloved girlfriend or wife.
Supplementary material from Reddit
Post-nut clarity is not postcoital dysphoria (PCD), also called postcoital tristesse (PCT) or ‘post-sex blues’, a condition marked by feelings of melancholy, agitation, anxiety or sadness after intercourse, that lasts for minutes or hours, which involves the release of a vulnerable sense of self after sex.
